THE PROBLEM ISN'T YOU, IT'S A NERVOUS SYSTEM STUCK IN SURVIVAL
When your system doesn’t feel safe, anxiety, emotional reactivity, low mood, rumination, and relationship struggles become the norm.
It's not your fault — your body is just organized around emotional survival.
I help people build internal safety and agency, trust themselves again, and shift the patterns that keep them stuck.
Sessions for individuals, couples, and ENM in Denver and online.
WHEN "DOING THE WORK" ISN'T WORKING
You know your patterns. You know your history. You’ve read the books, done the therapy, purchased the online programs. And still, your internal baseline hasn’t shifted. Life is functional, but underneath there is a persistent bracing, and the same internal reactions keep repeating.
This happens when your nervous system is still organized around protection. Thinking, analyzing, and "managing" yourself have become your primary survival strategies. They keep you safe, but they also keep you stuck and disconnected from your life.
The work we do here is about integration. We focus on raising your internal capacity so you can stay present, relate authentically, and move through the world without the exhausting need to constantly monitor or fix yourself.
No quick fixes or shallow advice—this is a steady, sustainable process for people ready to move into their own unique way of being.
Your rite of passage - your Rite To Be You
A SPACE FOR THE UNFILTERED
The process of individuation isn’t always light or clear. It requires a container where you can bring the parts of your experience that can feel "too much"—the outdated beliefs, the numbness, frustration, anger, and grief.
This is a neutral environment focused on nervous system safety. There is no pressure here to be "happier" or "further along" than you actually are. We work with your internal world exactly as it is, creating the capacity to stay with yourself through the difficult stuff so that you can raise your baseline.
WHERE THE WORK SHOWS UP
The Burden of Self-Management
You know your triggers and your history, yet your mind keeps looping. Anxiety, rumination, shame, and self-doubt have become "parts" of you that you’ve learned to manage, but haven't yet been able to integrate. You are tired of being your own full-time project.
Relational Maturity
Navigating the complexities of intimacy, attachment, and betrayal—particularly within the landscape of non-monogamy or high-depth relationships. We work on the ability to attach without merging and to stay in your own skin even when things get tough.
High-Functioning Survival
You are capable, reliable, and successful on the outside, but your internal system is stuck in a cycle of anxiety or mentalizing everything. You have learned to override your system to get things done, but it leaves you exhausted and disconnected from your own life.
The Habit of Self-Abandonment
You have a reflexive habit of over-explaining, taking the blame, or merging with the needs of others to maintain safety. This often shows up as a physiological "wall" or emotional overwhelm when it’s time to set a boundary or risk the disappointment of people you care about.
Internalized Neglect
Whether it’s the "parentified" child who grew up too fast or a history of emotional neglect and complex-ptsd, you feel a persistent internal dissonance. You are longing for a sense of belonging and "good enoughness" that doesn't depend on your performance or your utility to others.
AREAS OF FOCUS
Addressing the challenges of CPTSD and Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). We work through the shame, low self-worth, and chronic "bracing" that lead to emotional dysregulation and outward projection. This is about moving out of survival mode and into sustainable self-trust.
relational integrity + non-monogamy
Navigating attachment wounds, loneliness, and the complexities of modern intimacy. I support people through divorce, conscious breakups, and the specific challenges of Ethical Non-Monogamy. The goal is learning to connect deeply without self-abandoning.
A space for the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), grief, navigating midlife, or a shift in meaning. This includes psychedelic integration and the "outsider" experience—bridging the gap between your spiritual/cosmic depth and the reality of your daily life.
WHAT CLIENTS ARE SAYING
“Welmer's guidance in my life has been a grounding force towards my most authentic self again and again.
He has deeply held me through relational pain and confusion around purpose...and then cheered alongside me in moments of growth and celebration.
He loves those he serves unconditionally while also holding them to an incredibly high standard of truth and integrity.
Welmer is such a beautiful human and you absolutely want him as a guide in your life."
Sophie S. - MSW, LCSW, Licensed Therapist and Founder
of Rooted Rhythm
"Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes."
Carl Jung
SPECIALTIES
My work centers on supporting individuals and couples with their psycho-emotional landscape and the process of healing and growth. I specialize in:
CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT & HSP
Support for the unique challenges of CEN and Highly Sensitive Persons.
awakenings & psychedelics
Existential meaning, awakenings & pre/post psychedelic integration.
