I AM ALL
ABOUT YOU
| Expansion at your pace |
MISSION
My devotion is to normalize deep inner work and make sustainable transformation accessible. This devotion is my compass — a daily practice of presence and love in action.
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No bypassing. No insatiable pursuit of happiness, external validation, or egoic power plays.
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Throughout our work I encourage clients to radically accept themselves, and to take steps - however small - toward self-trust and a life lived more fully.
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Your rite of passage - your Rite To Be You
My Story
For much of my life, I searched for belonging, confidence, and purpose in the wrong places — achievement, approval, relationships, thrill seeking — not fully aware of the coping mechanisms running my behavior.
Growing up with childhood emotional neglect, abuse, and C-PTSD left me wired for that: people pleasing, projecting, control, and a pervasive feeling of unsafety accompanied by a core belief that I was “not good enough”. A parentified child growing up to be an adult who’d constantly self-abandon for the sake of love and security.
I have lived a very experience-rich and adventurous life, and I am immensely grateful for it!
But it took a breaking point to wake me up: the ending of another toxic relationship where I got to play out my childhood wounding yet again. By the end of that relationship there was nothing left of my sense of self, which I knew even at the time was exactly what I needed for my evolution.
I was brought to my knees by grief - honest, pure, innocent grief tearing my heart to pieces.
This was my awakening and the start of my dark night of the soul. I made a promise to myself, a vow between me and the universe, that I would face whatever I needed to face to become whomever I am meant to be. No matter the pain, no matter the fear or discomfort, no matter what it would take.
And then it dawned on me: I was willing to risk it all for truth, for wholeness, for the expansion of me as a human and soul. And so I set on a path of learning to deeply love all parts of myself, not just the wonderful ones, but especially the parts that were not so pretty.
I learned to self-regulate and teach my body to feel safe. I learned to rewire my brain, my body, and my core beliefs through which I was experiencing the world. I learned to metabolize shame, fear, and pain. I learned how to release resistance to life.
I still do this work every day - I’m a real person, ever growing and changing. I’m not a guru, nor do I claim to be “fully healed”, nor will I feed you an illusory picture of eternal bliss and abundance. But I carry inner stillness - a deep self-trust (aka self-love) and faith in the unfolding of life itself. Life flows differently now,
-with love, Welmer van der Wel-
A SAFE CONTAINER
FOR EXPANSION
My work is rooted in truth, compassion, honesty, emotional safety, courage, and humility.
​Truth means being willing to see things as they are, not as we wish they were. I don’t bypass pain with positivity or superficial solutions. Together, we meet reality with clear eyes and an open heart.
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Compassion and honesty go hand in hand — I hold space for what’s hard without judgment, while also being lovingly direct about what’s true. This balance creates the conditions for real growth.
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Safety isn’t about avoiding discomfort, but about creating enough trust for you to feel what’s underneath your defenses. Healing unfolds at the pace of your nervous system — never rushed, never forced.
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Courage and humility are the companions of transformation. It takes courage to face yourself, and humility to keep learning, unlearning, and showing up again. I walk this path right alongside you, as a fellow traveler devoted to growth and presence.​
Devotion
This work is not just what I do — it’s what I live. My devotion is to truth, transformation, and the continuous, sacred work of coming home to ourselves.
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I am devoted to the path of inner work — to meeting what’s difficult with presence, and to walking beside others as they learn to do the same. My life has shown me again and again that real change doesn’t come from effort alone, but from the courage to feel, to face what’s been avoided, and to trust what unfolds.
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I am devoted to my clients — to seeing their challenges not as problems to overcome, but opportunities to remember truth and expand beyond their current capacity. Every person carries an innate wisdom, and it’s my honor to help them reconnect with it — caringly, honestly, and at the pace their nervous system allows.​
Healing, self-realization, and beyond.
My approach draws deeply from Carl Jung's shadow work and process of individuation, guiding us to integrate split off parts of ourselves. I weave in Internal Family Systems (IFS) to compassionately dialogue with our inner parts, somatics to release stored emotions in the body, and intuitive self-guidance to align with our unique design and innate wisdom.
When the heart leads, our interactions, choices, and creativity come from a place of honesty, openness, and deep care—rather than fear, ego, or reactivity. This allows us to show up fully, not just for others, but for ourselves.
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Inner work helps us balance heart and mind, allowing clarity and discernment to guide our empathy and vulnerability. Together, they create a grounded, wise, and compassionate approach to life—where our actions are aligned with truth and love.
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What comes after individuation is subtler. Once a person has a stable sense of self, something else becomes available: a loosening of the grip around identity itself. The question slowly shifts from “Who am I becoming?” to “What is aware of this becoming?”. The self no longer needs constant definition, protection, or improvement. Experience starts to be met more directly, with less interpretation.​
Methodologies
Shadow work + Individuation
Carl Jung’s work on individuation is about becoming a whole, integrated person. It asks us to meet our shadow, reclaim split-off parts, and live from a place that is more honest and less driven by unconscious patterns.
Individuation gives us a strong center. It helps us become someone real rather than someone adapted, reactive, or fragmented. For many people, this work is already life-changing and deeply sufficient.
Internal Family Systems
IFS, created by Dick Schwartz, starts from a very human observation: we are not one single voice inside. We are made of many inner parts, each with its own perspective, emotion, and strategy for getting through life. Some parts push us forward, some pull us back, some criticize, some protect, some carry pain. None of them are random or broken. Every part developed for a reason, usually to help us survive, adapt, or belong.
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​Healing happens when these parts are approached with curiosity and care, rather than control. Over time, a steady inner leadership emerges — often called Self — characterized by calm, clarity, and compassion. As trust builds inside, parts relax their extreme roles. The system becomes more cooperative. Life feels less like constant inner negotiation and more like aligned movement from within.​
HSP + C-PTSD
​Being highly sensitive means your nervous system takes in more information and processes it deeply. You notice subtleties in tone, energy, environment, and emotion. This sensitivity brings creativity, empathy, and insight, while also requiring intentional pacing and boundaries. Overstimulation can lead to fatigue or withdrawal. When sensitivity is honored rather than pushed against, it becomes a refined instrument for connection, perception, and meaning. Aliveness shows up through nuance, depth, and attunement rather than intensity.
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C-PTSD, as Pete Walker teaches us, develops when safety and emotional attunement were missing over long periods of time. The body learns to stay alert, guarded, or collapsed even when danger has passed. Healing involves rebuilding trust at a nervous-system level through consistency, choice, and presence. Progress often feels slow because the system is learning something entirely new: that connection can exist without threat. As regulation returns, energy gradually frees up for curiosity, pleasure, creativity, and relationship. Life begins to feel inhabitable again.
Polyvagal Theory
Polyvagal theory, first introduced by Stephen Porges, helps explain why your body shifts between feeling open and connected, shut down and heavy, or alert and guarded. It describes how the nervous system constantly scans for safety or threat and adjusts your energy, mood, and capacity for connection accordingly. When your system senses safety, your body supports curiosity, creativity, intimacy, and ease. When it senses danger, even subtly, your body may move into fight, flight, or collapse, often without conscious choice.
Healing through a polyvagal lens focuses on gently increasing your body’s experience of safety through small, consistent cues like steady breathing, kind presence, safe touch, rhythm, nature, and attuned connection. Over time, this retrains your system to stay more often in states where life feels possible, relationships feel nourishing, and joy can emerge naturally.
Truth + the Non-dual
Truth always comes first, even when it's uncomfortable—drawing from nonduality teachings like Jed McKenna's unflinching pursuit of what's real, and insights from psychedelics for profound integration and awakening. I often incorporate Pete Walker's practical tools for healing complex PTSD, especially when working with highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigating overwhelm or relational patterns.